Making Peace with “What is” through Self-Love


Through the journey of life, we will experience challenging situations. The situations are usually never ideal, and it brings up different emotions within us. Interestingly, the emotions reflect deeply rooted internal struggles that we have experienced since childhood. If we take the time to learn lessons through challenges, we can grow in the divineness of spirituality. However, if we choose to become bitter in response to the challenges, we will not grow, but instead, we will become infested with hate and bitterness. The goal is to respond to all situations with unconditional love, which originates from our self-love. Therefore, it is important to make peace with “what is” and grow into our full potential as spiritual beings.

“Sometimes you just have to accept what is and decide to move on with faith and strength.” – Brendon Burchard

Accepting “what is” does not mean you are giving up or saying what happened is okay. On the contrary, accepting “what is” reflect the act of acknowledging that you cannot control others or events, but you do have control of your response. In addition, it is not resisting “what is” and fighting it. The act of resistance or putting up a fight will only hurt you. It creates deep pain, and it will transition into rumination. Therefore, it is important to accept “what is” by making peace with it.

I would like to share two suggestions to help with making peace by accepting “what is” through self-love.

  • Acknowledge what happened

Sometimes, we can experience events that feel so painful, and it makes us want to hide. Perhaps, the events make us feel shame, guilt, or fear. I kindly urge you to please don’t allow yourself to stay in those emotions for too long. It is okay to sit with emotions and feel them, but once you let those emotions reside within you, it can create an unhealthy environment. Therefore, please acknowledge what happened and the hurt. This is the first step in making peace with it.

  • Redefine the story

After the acknowledgment, it is helpful to redefine the story. By redefining the story, you allow yourself to get out of victimhood and into survival and create the ability to thrive. What do you want to learn from the experience? How will you use the experience to grow? Perhaps the experience was a spiritual awakening, and you are now aware of the importance of unconditional love and living in the present moment. Take a moment to define the story and what it means to you.

There is true power in acknowledgment and redefining the story of challenges. It allows you to dig deep within yourself and love yourself a bit more, which transcends into the love with other individuals. Brendon Burchard so eloquently believes, “No matter your position, circumstance, or opportunities in life, you always have the freedom of mind to choose how you experience, interpret, and, ultimately, shape your world.” Therefore, let us choose love and make peace with “what is” to cultivate inner freedom and make a difference in this world.

Thank you for reading this blog post and contributing to the discussion.

In Euphoric Gratitude and Love,


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